Considering yourself realistic instead of optimistic or pessimistic is not bad; in fact, it’s often a strength.

The “cup half full” vs “cup half empty” metaphor is a quick way to distinguish between how people interpret the same situation, either focusing on what’s there (optimism) or what’s missing (pessimism). But realism sits in a different space entirely:

• Realists see the cup and say, “There’s half a cup of water. What’s the next step?”
• You’re not sugarcoating or catastrophizing; you’re grounded in facts and likely thinking about what can be done based on what’s real.

Why realism is not a bad thing:

1. Decision-making: Realists tend to make better, more practical decisions because they weigh both risks and opportunities.
2. Leadership: Realists often serve as stabilizers in teams or high-pressure environments, balancing hope and caution.
3. Adaptability: Being realistic helps you adjust faster to changing circumstances because you don’t cling to best—or worst-case scenarios.
4. Trust: Others often trust realists more because emotional extremes don’t sway them.

Just one caution:

Sometimes, people use “I’m just being realistic” to cover up hidden pessimism, reject ideas too early, or avoid risks. So, if you find that happening, it might be worth checking whether realism is really at play or if fear or doubt is slipping in.

But if your realism helps you take action, see situations clearly, and stay grounded, then no, it’s not bad. It’s actually wise.